The bride plans to get married in Mexico despite the exorbitant costs to her loved ones, the cousin explains in a Reddit post
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A bride is ‘determined’ to have an ‘expensive’ wedding in Mexico even though her cousin told her many of their relatives will not attend due to the cost.
In a recent post on Redditinformed the bride’s cousin that the bride refuses to be deterred from her plans to get married in another country, despite the fact that most of her extended family all live “in the same state and the same place” and budget constraints has.
For context, the cousin began explaining that she and the bride “come from quite a large family” with many fellow cousins who all grew up together “basically as siblings” and remain “very close.” The bride is the first of the group to get married.
According to the cousin, the bride wants to get married in Mexico in November next year – “just before the holidays, which is already an expensive time of year.” She wrote that “many (their family members) don’t have the money/time to go to a resort in Mexico for three days for a wedding, especially right before the holidays.”
“I don’t even have more than 1,000 euros to spend on three days for a wedding in Mexico. I understand it’s the bride’s big day and all, but I find it very difficult to support the plan if I don’t “I don’t even think I can afford it, and neither can anyone in our family,” she explained.
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The cousin said that even though the bride “makes a huge deal about how she wants everyone in the same place for a few days because our family is close by,” nothing can convince her to change her plans.
“She refuses to do her wedding upstate or anywhere near where any of our family is. She simply refuses and doesn’t want to hear any other logic,” the cousin wrote, adding that she has consistently advised the bride against a wedding in Mexico. since the very beginning.
“When she first presented this plan to me, I actually said I understand where she’s coming from, but she wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of the family doesn’t make it,” she noted. “She got quite upset with me for taking that stand… and she also said if people can’t afford it, it’s not her problem.”
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The niece concluded her post with, “I’m not sure what to do here,” asking for her opinion on how to handle the disagreement with the bride.
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In the comments on the post, many people agreed that the bride is being unreasonable in this situation and that the cousin has no obligation to worry about the outcome of the bride’s wedding schedule.
“If she has already said that no one else’s finances are ‘her problem’ then you need to stop thinking about her attendance rate your problem,” someone advised. ‘She chose Mexico because she knew it would be expensive and uncomfortable. She can accept that the consequences of this choice will be a lower turnout rate.”
“You don’t have to ‘do’ anything here,” they continued. “You’re not the one planning this wedding, and from the sounds of it, you probably won’t be able to attend. All you can do is give her your RSVP in a timely manner, otherwise let her sort it out. She’s an adult.”
Another commenter suggested that the bride has lost sight of what’s really important.
“She’s right that it’s ‘not her problem if they can’t afford to go,’ but maybe she should think about what’s more important: the people or the place,” they wrote, adding: “Why not just going on a honeymoon to Mexico? “
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However, several people commented that they could understand why the bride became upset, suggesting that the cousin was giving her relative ‘unsolicited advice’, which would be taken as ‘criticism’.
“If she asked you for your opinion, then (that’s one thing). However, you have indicated that you think many people on your side of the family will most likely not make it because they are angry that you cannot prioritize financially the trip and you hope she will change the destination,” one wrote. “If you want to express your frustration, do so through your support network, but let her and her future husband plan the wedding they want.”
Another Redditor told the cousin that in the future she should only speak on her own behalf, and not on behalf of the rest of her family. “I understand why you said what you said, and it’s probably a good thing that you did. But from now on, you should only speak for yourself,” they wrote.
They then advised the cousin to take a step back and let things unfold naturally.
“Just wait and see – if more family members say they can’t afford to come and express that feeling to the bride (this is key here), she might come to her senses,” the commenter wrote. “You can’t have a wedding in Mexico and expect it to be a big family reunion when your family is struggling with money. If she thinks having her family is more important than getting married in Mexico, she might change her mind about the wedding.” destination.”
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